Amy Submits

I'm Amy, I'm in my early 30's and submissive. My Dominant partner is @CynicalDom. We're monogamous and 24/7 D/s. We have a podcast called Over The Knee. My asks are always open for any/all respectful questions. 18+ only.

My main tags for my original content: #writing | #anecdotes | #asks.

My Other tags: #vanilla to D/s | #other writers | #new to D/s.

AmySubmits Posts

Updated 5/27/2022

Short posts or anecdotes get tagged #anecdotes. Asks that I answer are tagged #asks. When I add a caption to a photo it goes under #captions. Posts that that I think may interest those going from vanilla to D/s are tagged #vanilla to D/s. Posts that I think may interest those new to D/s are tagged #new to D/s.

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Our Rules

List of D/s blogs

List of domestic discipline blogs

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Our podcast episodes:

https://player.fm/series/over-the-knee

sirssexkittenana:

Good afternoon Amy. We’ve chatted before but it’s been a while. I have an image about what Dominance is that I shared but I’m struggling to find the same/similar for a submissive. Do you have anything along these lines that describes/defines the submissive role? Thank you.

amysubmits:

I don’t know of a submissive version like this off hand but I’ll post so maybe someone else will have one to share! :)

gardensandghosts:

Submission is being there for them
Submission is being guided through meltdowns and made to grow out of old fears
Submission is accepting and learning
Submission is being told that you can rise
Submission is confidence that you are stronger than your demons
Submission is the courage to reach for support
Submission is being encouraged to thrive
Submission is permission to feel safe and open
Submission is trusting in your guide
Submission is breaking down the walls of old insecurities and building a palace in their stead

sirssexkittenana:

amysubmits:

I don’t know of a submissive version like this off hand but I’ll post so maybe someone else will have one to share! :)

neuroticboyfriend:

dreamdolldiary:
[ID: An image of a room with white text over it. The text reads:
Alternatives to “I did nothing
I rested
I chose not to make plans
I listened to my body
I prioritized my needs
I shortened my to do list
I watched the show I love
I was kind to myself
I took a mental health day
I allowed myself to recharge
I gave myself what I needed
/End ID]

cherishedproperty:

katsdom:
heatherannchristie:
sirfrogsworth:
I graduated high school in 99.
There was a student at our school named Wayne.
Wayne was gay. It was obvious. He was unable to stay in the closet even if he wanted to. To make matters worse, he was also Black. From a bullying standpoint, that was not a great combo. Both Black and white students made fun of him relentlessly. He was ostracized from the only community that may have given him protection. Only us theater kids stuck up for him, but not to significant effect.
Wayne was bullied so much that at one point he finally snapped and attacked his bullies with a lunch tray. I was actually seated in perfect line of sight and just sat there chewing my soggy fries in stunned silence. It didn’t even seem real as I was witnessing it. The image of him wailing on his main bully as the food on his tray flew off is permanently logged into my long term memory.
The bully he attacked had blood all over his face and went straight to the nurse. Other than superficial cuts, he was not injured.
Before the attack, Wayne went to teachers for help.
He went to guidance counselors for help.
He went to the principals for help.
He did all of the things you were supposed to do. No one helped him. They wagged a finger at the bullies and warned them to stop.
Wayne’s lunch tray melee was the only thing that worked. His bullies stayed far away from him. But a week later Wayne was expelled and the bullies were given no punishment.
So… no.
No one in my school talked about being trans.
Because the only way to survive being openly queer was to bash people with a lunch tray.
No one in my school talked about being trans. The terms were different, but the reason no one did was explained above.
But there were trans people. My 6th grade teacher Mrs. Kutchner explained that people should feel free to dress how they would like, and enjoy any activities they like even if it’s not “normal for their gender”. She explained her daughter liked her hair short and played baseball. She wanted to play football. She didn’t like wearing dresses or makeup. She asked if we thought someone should be able to dress how they liked and do activities that were fun for them?
My middle-aged neighbor started cross-dressing. I’m not sure how they would have identified. No one asked them. They got whispered about a lot but no one had guts enough to shun them, and thankfully no one was violent.
I grew up in a very rural area of Western NY where the closest town was about 3k people. My school was K - 12. There were 25 kids give or take in my grade. In the 1980s in that sheltered area I personally knew two gender non-conforming people, and encountered others. These people have existed through all of recorded history. Only the terms change. The only reason “you never heard of it in your day” was because it was extremely dangerous not to conform. At a minimum your life would be made miserable. Even if you were conforming but you weren’t doing it right! This is not something to flex about.
A parallel I think works very well: The rate of left-handedness in America in 1960 was 4X greater than in 1900. Left-handedness is clearly innate. It’s not learned. Why did the rate increase so much? Because society came to accept left-handedness and stopped punishing people for it. In the first half of the 20th century, people were beaten in school for writing with their left hand. So left-handed people struggled to use their right hand, often not very well. Once that stopped, the rate of self-reported left-handedness rose rapidly - and then stabilized, once it reached the true number. I was born in 1951 and people from the generation ahead of me told of being beaten and of having their left hand tied down so they couldn’t use it.
The sheer number of people who have transitioned late in life means there were trans people before 2000. They just lived in fear and despair.

This transphobe: I didn’t go to high school with trans kids, this must be a new fad that kids are making up!

Other transphobes: “They’re 16, they can’t possibly know if they’re trans or not!”

There’s just no winning with people who want to make excuses for why they want to believe trans people don’t exist.

I graduated HS in 2009, and I went to a smaller school but there were only two kids who were out as gay across all the grades the entire time we were in school. But after people would graduate and move on to adult life or college or whatever, people were coming out all over Facebook. Maybe some of them just didn’t know until they were older, but I have to think the vast majority just hid it until it felt safer to come out. If it’s not safe to be gay, it’s no surprise that it doesn’t feel safe to be trans either…and this was almost a decade later than they asked for.

How common something is doesn’t change whether or not it’s traumatic.

Whether or not other people would recognize your traumatic experiences as trauma, has no impact on whether or not it was traumatic for you.

only-cat-memes:

Yourdailydoseofcatmemes

satanicdollx:

btw if you ever see me interacting with shitty people, abusers, manipulators etc please let me know!

forsaftey:

PEDO ALERT!!!!
I’m so tired of seeing blogs in here (some with big followings) interacting with minors who have accounts that use codes to say they are minors so that older bloggers can claim innocence
So a couple of weeks ago I made a fake profile and heavily implied I was underage. The following accounts messaged me and were willing to talk to someone they believed to be a 15 year old girl
This is a small portion of blogs I’ve managed to expose here, but there are far more. Please share this, block and report these scumbags and let’s try hold our community accountable

Screen shots of proof can be found on my blog (tumblr wouldn’t let me add all 40+ to this post)

THE FOLLOWING BLOGS INTERACT WITH MINORS

@talk-to-dad-abuser

@kingcorrupter

@scottishdominant

@smilingthroughthepain

@fiddy-db

@famousdelusionmentality

@thejellyfishwizard

@nothin-weirdhere

@hornybastard1369

@waffles666

@ditto-is-drawing

@cosmic-entity2

@traditionalsexist

@cosmicheat

@sparky-kai

@yourgamemaster

@themusicprodigy

@loving-dxmon

@jamesmoraed

@shamandaddy

@pindie

@boredcoffeenerd

@bigmeanfatty

@gentleman-9121

@pervdragon4279

@illhouseu

@daddydomfirenze4

@thespicymessexpress

@baddaddy80

@daddyhasmanyissues

@your-gross-father

@sir1489

@wttdsotm87-v5

@wttdsotm87-v6

@sickpervertman

@paininc2

@thatboringteacher

@chattyzero2

@flashedinhell

@qpdp8

@sadisticddbear

@robedavedom

@daddynue

BLOCK AND REPORT

sirssexkittenana:

I don’t know of a submissive version like this off hand but I’ll post so maybe someone else will have one to share! :)

theamazingbard:

i love it when people can’t finish telling a joke or a story because they are laughing so hard. they get the giggles and whatever they are saying is absolutely incomprehensible. nothing could be as funny as watching them struggle through it, nothing could be as infectious as their joy. truly a wonderful human moment

lovesjustachemical:

luvtheheaven:
warpedellipsis:
furiousgoldfish:
How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships:
you have to be obedient and submissive in your childhood if you don’t want to get beaten, you’re taught this is normal in life, so why should you doubt it when it happens in your relationship?
you’re supposed to care about everyone else more than yourself, you’re taught to provide comfort and be minimally or completely non-demanding of other family members, always put yourself last, and this is exactly what abusive partner will demand of you as well, how would you fight it if you’re taught this is just your place in life?
your appearance, interests, skills, achievements, and faults are constantly exposed to criticism, insults, humiliation and ridicule in abusive childhood, and you’re taught it’s normal, how are you supposed to fight it when it happens in a relationship?
you’re humiliated and ridiculed for seeking intimacy or try to express yourself in your childhood, how would you know it’s okay for you to desire understanding, consideration, reassurance and intimacy in your relationship?
if you’re used to being hit, humiliated, and having your objections to it ignored, or even worse, minimized and punished by even worse violence, how are you supposed to defend yourself when it happens in a sexual situation? how would you be able to know it’s wrong for another person to harm you if your parents have been doing it, and they supposedly love you?
if you’re taught to always be grateful that things aren’t worse, always compare yourself to someone who is tortured worse, how are you ever supposed to reach out and get help for being abused? how are you supposed to know when your situation is really, really bad? There’s always going to be someone somewhere in the world tortured worse, and this becomes a reason for you to suffer in silence.
Abusive parents are direct cause of abusive relationships, if your boundaries aren’t destroyed and your sense of what’s acceptable and to be tolerated in your close relationships skewed to allow abuse, you have much easier time rejecting abusive relationships later in life.
>so why should you doubt it when it happens in your relationship?
and why would you do anything but brush it off, why would you ever see it as a red flag? why would you think it bad at all, when it’s normal and it’s your whole life?
>get help for being abused
why get help when help and talking about it has never done anything but make it worse….and you know it can always get worse, and you know nobody ever believes you, and you know nobody will do anything to actually help
The other thing not mentioned in this list is how sometimes the next abusive relationship is objectively less bad than the first abusive situation you survived. If you’re constantly comparing it to your own “that was worse” it definitely will make it very hard to see that this current thing is still not good.
I’ve found that this sort of childhood can turn normal, potentially healthy relationships toxic too.
- You submit to anything your partner or friend suggests because you’re so conditioned never to deny anyone. So you have a sexual experience you don’t care for, or over-extend yourself emotionally, or do things you resent, but your loved one can’t tell because you’re so good at acting exactly the same as if you did want to do it.
- Your loved one does ask for your opinion, even multiple times in a caring way, but you lie because it’s so ingrained that making “the wrong choice” is just a trap you’ll be punished with later.
- You never point out anything hurtful your loved one said or did, no matter how willingly they’d apologize and adjust, because any criticism could turn into a terrifying, blow-out fight.
- You fold instantly if they appear mad at you, even if you’d prefer a compromise, because any slight issue with you means they could Withdraw Their Love Forever. Nothing you want seems worthy weighed against those stakes.
- You spiral into depression after any criticism, because you expect all your mistakes to accumulate against you forever. You think the relationship can only get worse as they discover how bad you are.
- You’re paranoid that your loved one is lying when they say something is okay, partly because that’s what you would do and partly because you’re used to having someone pretend things are fine only to rage at you later.
- You may be jealous or mistrustful of a loved one who did nothing to deserve it, because *of course* anyone would leave you or mistreat you when they realize that you’re a boring and shitty person who deserves it.

crazyonmain:

Stop betraying yourself by pretending you’re not feeling what you’re feeling.

mydarkside-2:

Ignoring your safe word just because I can and love to see you cry and beg.

This has no place in our community, ignoring a safe word is abuse not BDSM.

mejithedoe:

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